In Defense of Others – Part I

1 Samuel 19: 4 “And Jonathan spoke well of David to Saul his father and said to him, “Let not the king sin against his servant David, because he has not sinned against you, and because his deeds have brought good to you. For he took his life in his hand and he struck down the Philistine,and the Lord worked a great salvation for all Israel. You saw it, and rejoiced. Why then will you sin against innocent blood by killing David without cause?”

I have always been what I would consider a loyal person. I first noticed this at the age of approximately four years old, when an adult – who was enraged – threw a fork at the wall in the room we were in. And, inadvertently, almost hit my brother in the head.

She wasn’t angry with him. He was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. I didn’t care – I flew at her and attacked her. I didn’t have to think. I just acted.

Loyal? Yes. As to whether my behavior was appropriate or not, I confess – I vacillate. Part of me feels like a Sunday School teacher would forcefully admonish me for violence, especially against an adult – an elder. The other part of me is just that – me. This behavior was not an abberation – it was part of who I am – and I struggle against that part of me a lot.

However, would I be loyal to someone who isn’t loyal to me? Therein lies the rub, and the answer is “no.” I feel that if you don’t treat me with loyalty, then you’re on your own. Again – is that the right thing to do?  I don’t know, because the people who aren’t loyal to me are people I don’t trust; people I have to guard my heart from; people who expect my loyalty but don’t want to give me theirs. Again, that rub – what’s right and fair here?

One reason I really like Jonathan, King Saul’s son, was that he was loyal to his best friend – the future king of Israel, David – against his own father. Jonathan chose wisely. His father was fallen out of favor with God because he had sinned and was too proud to admit it. Part of the reason King Saul hated David so much was that it was apparent to everyone that David was now in favor with the Lord – that he had been annointed by Him. King Saul saw that his days were numbered and it drove him stark-raving mad.

For some of you, standing up in defense of someone to your parent would be an easy thing to do because you don’t respect him or her. I don’t mean in a sinful way – I mean the way Jonathan felt about Saul. On the other hand, some of you have parents who are godly men and women, and the idea of bucking that system makes you decidedly uneasy and uncomfortable.

What’s the right thing to do here? The truth, as I see it, is to defend what is right. But please note that Jonathan did not get all up in Saul’s grill, so to speak. He was calm. He was strong. He was right. And he would rather upset his father than go against God.

Are you going against God when you allow people you love – such as your parents, your spouse, your friend, etc. – to hurt another and not say anything? Please take some time today and consider this matter. Because if you are, you aren’t just hurting someone close to you, someone in an untenable position. You could be sinning against God.

It’s easy to see how angry the world is. Was it always like this, or did social media make it so blatantly obvious? There are far too many folks letting words fly when they ought to hush.

The people who are afraid to speak Truth end up getting a pass. They don’t cause any trouble, do they? Or do they? Recognize where your priorities are, and act according to the Word. God gives you the courage to do what is right. And once you begin to live your life this way, as in all other things, it becomes a habit and not something to be frightened of. Be a friend like Jonathan. Blessings!



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